7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen R Covey
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7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen R Covey
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Sharpen The Saw
Continuous Improvement
Focus on getting better forever
Progressive overload
Most people neglect this because it isn't urgent
Four Needs
Physical
Mental
Emotional/Social
Spiritual
Synergize
What is Synergy?
The highest activity in all life - the true test and manifestation of all the other habits put together
The whole is greater than the sum of it's part; the relationship that the parts have together is in and of itself a part
When people have the same paradigm, values and beliefs and behaviours they can accomplish more together
When people don't have the same paradigm, values and beliefs and behaviors they can't accomplish much
How to Create Synergy
Consider how differences between you and another person might reveal a third picture
Attempt to understand how conflict in your life is coming from a lack of synergy
When there is a situation that requires synergy with someone else to get something done but you can't find a third picture evaluate how important it really is
Seek First to Understand
Then to Be Understood
Seek First to Understand
Most people listen autobiographically; listen to other people in order to relate it back to their experiences
A lot of people only listen with the intent of responding with their paradigm
Listen empathically and really make sure your understand the other person before responding
Once you have taken the time to listen make sure the other person knows you've been listening (build their bank account)
Then to Be Understood
Only once you truly understand where someone is coming from can you be truly understood
Think of the old lady and young lady picture.. until we both know what the other one is looking at we can't find that there is actually a third picture
Communication is the most important skill in life and involves; speaking, writing, reading and listening
Think Win Win
Six Paradigms of Human Interaction
Win/Win
Win/Lose
Lose/Win
Lose/Lose
Win
Win/Win or No Deal
Key Ieas
There is abundance in all things
Don't compare yourself to others compare to yourslef
Don't quit until Win/Win or No Deal
Build up emotional bank accounts before doing the deal
Overview
Personality Ethic vs Character Ethic
Personality Ethic
Most new school personal development books focus on this
Things like public image, how you dress, how you perform in social interactions, positive mental attitude, skills and techniques to get people to behave in certain ways.
Can work for a short amount of time but often leads people to feeling meaningless
Character Ethic
Most of the classic personal development books focus on this
Things like integrity, humility, simplicity, fairness, modesty, love, courage, justice, and the Golden Rule.
Gives you deep meaning and a moral compass to guide you
Perception is not reality
We often see things the way we see them and never question if they are true
The way we see things actually influences the way they are (Old lady vs Young Lady)
Paradigms
How we believe (see) the world to work
Paradigm shift is when how you see the world changes and therefore the world around you changes as well
Dependance vs Independence vs Interdependence
Emotional Bank Accounts
Understanding Other People
Making and keeping promises
Be clear and upfront
Being loyal
Sincerely apologizing
Forgiveness
Habits
Things we dow without thinking because we've conditioned them
Habits either serve you or they don't serve you at this particular time
Once you've built a habit it can be very difficult to break
The best way to break a habit is to change your paradigm
Be Proactive
The Social Mirror
Viewing yourself based on the opinions, perceptions and paradigms of other people
They are more projections than reflections; people are showing you what they think of themselves when they tell you what they think of you
Self Awareness is Human
Self awareness is your ability to project yourself outside of a situation
That is something only available to humans
Notice how you are not your feelings, moods or thoughts
Three Social Maps
Genetic Determinism
Grandparents did it to you
Psychic Determinism
Parents did it to you
Environmental Determinism
Someone or something did it to you
*All of these paradigms only really work for animals and humans who believe them because humans have self awareness and the ability to choose
Proactivity Defined
Human Beings are responsible for their own lives
Response Ability
Taking initiative means recognizing our responsability to make things happen
Circles of Concern and Influence
Concern is things you have no control over but are within your awareness
Influence is things you have control over and are within your influence
*Focus only on the things you can influence in order to be proactive
Begin With The End in Mind
Stoic Meditation on Death
Imagine yourself at your funeral; what do you want people to be saying about you?
This is the ultimate manifestation of beginning with the end in mind
What Does It Mean?
Thinking about the end before you begin
Allowing your imagination of the future guide your actions in the present
Why?
After you've decided to guide yourself and not let the social mirror guide you; you will need some sort of guidance and it's best to find that within yourslef
Allows you to decide what is truly important on a daily, weekly or long term basis
Takes out the emotion of the day to day and allows you to be more analytical
Put First Things First
Two Questions:
What one thing could you do that if you did it on a regular basis would make a tremendous difference in your personal life?
What one thing in your business or professional life would bring similar results?
Accept Personal Responsibility For Actions
Time Management
Time cannot be managed we can only manage ourselves
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